A Story
“When the Japanese repair damaged objects, they praise the damaged area using the left corners. They believe that something becomes more beautiful when it has gone wrong and has a story.”
The traditional Japanese art of repairing woven pottery with a strong adhesive and then quickly with gold is called Kintsugi.
The result is that the pottery is not only repaired, but also stronger than the original. To correct the flaws and defects, they are highlighted and celebrated, as they reveal the strongest part of the problem.
Kintsukuroi is the Japanese term for the art of repairing gold or silver lacquer. It means that by repairing the object in a damaged state, it becomes even more beautiful.
Transfer this image to the human world, to the world of contact with those who actually appreciate this as fan mal or ens fan mal.
Quant, I will also understand that the strong bonds and our Malmes hearts can repair each other’s broken love threads and become stronger. The idea is that when something valuable fails, a good strategy is not to endanger its fragility or imperfection, but to repair it with something that makes it golden: strength, service, virtue…
The proof of imperfection and fragility, but also of resilience—the capacity for recovery—is worth bearing in the air.”
Resilience and Craniosacral Therapy
Resilience is the ability to face adversity with great strength. It is described as the ability to recover from adversity and crises. It is a parallel from physics, describing the property of matter to return to its original shape or position after being deformed. It is a property of elasticity, tone, flexibility, and mobility.
As neuroscience has shown, the most resilient people in stressful situations have greater emotional balance and are better able to withstand pressure. We could say that it is a quality of inner strength and the ability to endure difficulties.
Resilience is the belief that an individual or team must continually overcome obstacles without considering defeat and that, even when the outcomes are against them, they must ultimately demonstrate exemplary behavior to excel in uncertain situations with extremely positive results.
This resilience is useful in situations of intense and sustained stress, such as unexpected loss of self-esteem, psychological or physical mistreatment or abuse, prolonged temporary illness, emotional abandonment, failure, natural disasters, and extreme poverty.
These are children with tremendous resilience in the face of abuse, in contrast to those who later experience enormous difficulties adapting to various activities of daily life (school, establishing lasting social relationships, family environment, etc.). They may exhibit excessive withdrawal or extreme aggressiveness, which makes them prone to being very vulnerable to others and projecting their feelings.
One could say that resilience is the most profound form of resistance. It is the ability to overcome a negative stimulus. Resilience is nothing extraordinary: this ability is inherent in every human being. The challenge is to develop this ability with a confident attitude and will depend on the resources we have and develop.
In a conflict situation, we need to ask ourselves the following:
- We had resources available at the time.
- We can activate and mobilize these resources.
- As therapists, we need to help the client easily understand the resources they can mobilize. My best experience in counseling is that we have all the resources and therefore don’t use them.
Twenty-four strengths that relate to a resilient character
- Curiosity, personal interest. Be interested in what happens to you, discover exciting topics, research, and discover new things.
- Love of knowledge and learning. Learning to acquire new materials and knowledge, a continuous tendency to acquire new knowledge.
- Integrity, critical thinking, and an open mind. Think about things and examine all their meanings and implications. Don’t draw conclusions immediately, but only after considering all possibilities. Be willing to change your ideas based on evidence.
Engineering, originality, practical intelligence. Consider our methods, products, and procedures. - Being able to give valuable advice and recommendations to others is not only a way to understand the world but also helps us understand others.
- Courage. Don’t be intimidated by danger, change, difficulty, or pain. Being able to act on one’s convictions confronts what once meant criticism.
- Perseverance and diligence. Finish where one begins. Those who persist in an activity will encounter obstacles. Ensure satisfaction with business tasks and ensure their successful completion.
- Integrity, honesty, authenticity. Always stick to the truth, do not be presumptuous, and take responsibility for your own feelings and the company’s actions.
- Vitality and passion for things. Approach life with enthusiasm and energy. I am convinced that I have inherited everything from a friend. Experience life as an exciting adventure and feel alive and active.
- Love, attachment, the ability to appreciate and be appreciated. Build meaningful and valuable relationships with others, especially those where affection and healing are reciprocal. Feel at home and attached to others.
- Compassion, kindness, generosity. Do favors and good deeds for others, help others, and care for them.
- Emotional, personal, and social intelligence. Have empathy. Be aware of the emotions and feelings of your partner and others, know how to behave in different social situations, and know what is important to other people.
- Civicism, civility, civility, teamwork. Work with a team or group of people, remain loyal to the group, and feel a part of it.
Sense of justice, equality. Treat everyone equally and in accordance with the principles of equality and justice. Donate to all causes. - Liven up the group a member belongs to for practical reasons to strengthen relationships between the people in the group. Organize group activities throughout the semester.
- Ability to forgive, compassion. The ability to forgive people who have misbehaved and give them a second chance allows me to neither be offended nor hold a grudge.
- Modesty, humility. Let them follow those who speak of a Mateix, not to be the center of attention and not to think they are more special than others.
- Prudence, discretion, caution. Be cautious in your decisions, do not take unnecessary risks, and do not be swayed by someone who seeks your life.
- Self-control, self-regulation. Having the ability to regulate one’s feelings and actions. Be disciplined and control your impulses and emotions.
- Appreciation of beauty and excellence, capacity for surprise. Being able to appreciate the beauty of things in everyday life or being interested in aspects of life such as nature, art, science, etc.
- Be aware of the good things that happen to you and appreciate them. Know how to give thanks.
Hope, optimism, foresight. Expect the best for the future and work to achieve it. I believe that it is up to us to achieve a good future. - Sense of humor. Laughter and jokes, frequent reflection, recognizing the positive side of life.
- Spirituality, faith, religious feelings. Believing that the things that happen in the world and in one’s own existence have a purpose or universal meaning. I believe there is something higher that shapes our behavior and protects us.
Institute activities:
Sessions in Barcelona and Reus: https://www.craneosacral-panizo.com/tratamientos/
Craniosacral Therapy Course: https://www.craneosacral-panizo.com/formacion-basica-craneosacral-2021/